I have started watching again Pakistani dramas after many years, even before I was not to much involve aside of the Humsafar drama that I watched. So I started again to watch dramas since last week only and I watched a few.
I was quite dumbfounded and sad to see that many pakistani dramas are advocating violence against women. Whatever it is physical, sexual or mental violence.
Dramas such as Gul-e-Rana or Sangat, even Bashar Momin show to young viewers an image of violence against women being a positive element in a relationship.Which is completely false, who wants to spend his/her life with someone that beats you up, that insult you , that has no respect for you? No one sane, of course!
First, if there is any form of violence against a woman, then the society , media , the people and both parties involve see it as the fault of the woman. However, it is not. The person who decides to use violence is the only person that should be held responsible and be punished unlike how the current situation is where women are punished. The message is wrong.
Secondly, if a man beats a woman, it does not mean he likes her, on the contrary it is only a game of power, where the perpetrator wants to have power and dominance over the victim. Many dramas now shows that it is fine for the masoom girl to suffer physical or mental violence because in the end she will be happily married to the guy who beats her up and he would have changed. A beater stays a beater, a rapist stays a rapist he will not change. The intention and act remain, violence is the opposite of equality and respect and the absence of dioalgue between two people. It is no where near love. In pakistani dramas, many girls are perceive as victims for a violence by a father or another man. The girls are vulnerable, weak and defenseless -elements that are not on their favors at all when it comes to protect themselves.
In the drama Tum Mere Kia Ho, Hina was about to get married to a older and sexiest man (not her choice) but it got cancelled and some other events led him to barge at night in his house : threated her, take her by the arm with violence and wanted to try eventually rape her (I think) and take away her izaat. Hopefully, it did not happenned, even thoguh she was svaed buy the main charcater Umer, it is still wrong to show so much violence against women. It is called gratuitous violence . Pakistani dramas should show more female empowerment, someone on tumblr showed Gul E Rana as a form of empowerment, I was pretty annoyed,how can that sick situation where the girl is forced to marry a man and has to keep quiet a form of empowerment?
Thirdly, Rape is not a form of love, it is a sick and disgusting acts done by the rapist, where the victim has no responsiblity. When someone is raped in pakistani society that person is at fault and is being seen as if she/he has the plague! Dramas should not show this violence as positive but rather condemn it, not turn the rapist into a role model, not someone that should be cared for or forgiven . Blurring the lines between what is right and what is wrong is not going to help the society and especially not the young minds of naive girls who are praising the main character of Gul e Rana.
Lastly, if a woman is obsessive over a man as in Bheegi palkein or Tum Mere Kia Ho , the second characters in both shows are is shown as very obsessive, ready to do anything to get the guy just for the sake of “owning” him or his name. It is good clearly show it as wrong,and sick but then why have a double standard when it comes to men? Just because it is a man who is obssessive, stalking it is okay?! It is not right for a man to behave this way.
Women are human being, you can talk to them, no need to harass, stalk or use violence;
And when a girl says no, it Actually means NO.